Bronnie Ware, a hospice nurse who cared for people in their final moments, has shared the five regrets she heard most often from her patients. Through her work in palliative care and her book, The Top Five Regrets of the Dying, she offers heartfelt insights that can guide us to live better now. Her patients’ reflections, as they faced death, reveal what truly matters in life.
Many wished they hadn’t spent so much time working. Men, especially, regretted prioritizing jobs over family, wishing they’d cherished moments with loved ones instead. Another common regret was not living authentically. Patients admitted to hiding their true selves to meet others’ expectations, missing out on pursuing their dreams and finding inner peace.
Maintaining friendships was another loss they mourned. As life gets hectic, connections fade, but patients realized too late how much friends enrich life. A 2023 survey showed 8% of Americans have no close friends, reflecting a growing loneliness problem. Many also regretted not sharing their feelings openly. Suppressing emotions to keep peace led to resentment and, for some, health struggles.
Finally, patients wished they’d embraced happiness more. They saw at the end that happiness is a choice, not just something that happens. Staying stuck in routines kept them from joy. Bronnie’s message is a wake-up call: we can shape our lives. By focusing on family, staying true to ourselves, nurturing friendships, expressing emotions, and choosing happiness, we can live with fewer regrets, inspired by those who shared their wisdom at life’s end.
