It can be alarming to wake up from a dream where someone dies. What does it mean? You may feel anxious if the dream features the death of a person who’s still alive. On the other hand, you might feel comforted if your dream has a cherished loved one who’s already died. Although experts don’t have clear answers on why people dream, we’ll share reasons why you might be having this dream along with plenty of psychology-based interpretations.
What It Means If You See Someone’s Death in Your Dream
Sometimes, dreams about someone dying can represent transformation or the end of a chapter in your life. If you’re close to the person who died, it could mean that your relationship is changing in some way. If you’re dreaming about a deceased loved one, it might mean you’re still working through the loss.
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You’re dealing with change.
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Dying can signify transformation or the end of something.
Dying can signify transformation or the end of something. Watching someone die in your dream can feel frighteningly realistic, but it’s usually figurative. You might dream about someone dying if you’re making big life changes like leaving a job or ending a long-term relationship for instance.[1]
Dreaming about dying can also motivate you to make a change that you’ve been putting off. For example, maybe you’ve been thinking about going back to school or repairing a broken relationship.
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You’re worried about losing someone.
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The person who dies in your dream might be someone you’re afraid to lose.
The person who dies in your dream might be someone you’re afraid to lose. If you’ve dreamed about someone close to you dying, like a parent, sibling, or child, it may be because you genuinely fear losing them. It may also mean that you fear a loss of connection with that person.[2]
For example, you might dream about your sibling dying. This might be triggered by real-life relationship problems between the two of you.
If you dream that you’re the one who dies, it might be because you’re afraid of losing some part of your identity.
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You need to nurture yourself.
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You may dream that you’re dying if you’re not feeling fulfilled.
You may dream that you’re dying if you’re not feeling fulfilled. Maybe you’ve been too busy focusing on work or raising a family, and you haven’t been doing things that help you thrive or relax. A dream about your own death can be a wake-up call to focus your attention on something that’s important to you.
For instance, maybe you’ve been so preoccupied with making other people happy, that you haven’t prioritized your own happiness. Give yourself permission to spend time on yourself.
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You’re working through the end of a relationship.
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The death of someone can symbolize a changing relationship.
The death of someone can symbolize a changing relationship. It might mean that it’s completely over, especially if you’re dreaming that you’re in a graveyard or burying them. In some cases, dreaming about a friend or partner dying might just mean that the relationship is changing in some way.[3]
For instance, you might dream about a childhood friend dying, when in reality you’re both growing older and going your separate ways.
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You’re grieving the recent loss of someone.
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Working through the loss can cause intense emotions.
Working through the loss can cause intense emotions. Your dream about the person can feel extreme—you might feel amazement to see them alive in your dream or you may feel intense despair to realize that they’re not actually alive in reality. You’re more likely to have these types of “back to life” dreams within the first few days or months of a loved one’s death.[4]
Researchers found that people who had a mixture of intensely positive and negative emotions were still in the earliest stages of grief.
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You’re fondly remembering a deceased loved one.
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These dreams can bring you a sense of comfort.
These dreams can bring you a sense of comfort. Some people see this kind of dream as a visit from those they love. It just means that you still care about the person and you have positive memories of them. You may even wake up feeling happy or cared for.[5]
In these dreams, you might see your deceased loved one, but they’re healthy or young again.
If you dream about a loved one who’s died, you might dream that they support you in some way—they cook you a meal, give you a hug, or offer you advice.
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You need a sense of closure.
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You might dream that a deceased loved one gives you assurances or forgiveness.
You might dream that a deceased loved one gives you assurances or forgiveness. Sometimes, we don’t get to properly say goodbye to our loved ones before they pass. You may feel regret that you couldn’t say farewell or part on good terms with someone. Dreams are a way that some people find closure months or even years after someone passes.[6]
For instance, if you weren’t able to make it to a grandparent’s bedside before they died, you may dream that you’re visiting with them and you give them a big goodbye hug. This can help you feel at peace with their death.
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You’re currently dealing with someone who’s dying.
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Caregivers frequently experience disturbing dreams.
Caregivers frequently experience disturbing dreams.[7] If you’re preparing for the death of a loved one, then dying is a subject that will weigh heavily on your mind. This stress from preparing to grieve can cause more frequent dreaming.[8] It’s not surprising that you may dream about the person dying since you’re mentally preparing for that to happen.
If you’re a caregiver struggling with poor sleep, it can help to unwind and do something relaxing before you go to bed.
If it’s hard for you to stop thinking about the death of a loved one, set aside time specifically to think about that. Then, shift your mental energy to something completely different.
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You’re letting go of a behavior.
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You might dream that you’re dying or dead if you’re trying to be different.
You might dream that you’re dying or dead if you’re trying to be different. In this case, your death might symbolically mean the end of how you used to be or a behavior that you’re stopping.[9] For instance, if you’re stressed not smoking anymore, you may dream about your death, but really it’s because you’re thinking about the end of a habit.
Death dreams might alert you that you need to nurture some new part of yourself. For example, if you’re a new non-smoker, allow yourself to feel proud of your hard work or reward yourself in some way.
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You struggle with the subject of death.
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In many cultures, death is a taboo subject, so dreams may be your way of confronting it.
In many cultures, death is a taboo subject, so dreams may be your way of confronting it. Researchers found that terminally ill patients near death increasingly dreamed about dying. This led researchers to believe that dreams of dying may be a way for the mind to acknowledge and accept mortality.[10]
The study went on to say that thinking about and discussing death can relieve these kinds of existential struggles.
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You’re not predicting someone’s death.
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Just because you’ve had the dream doesn’t mean it will happen.
Just because you’ve had the dream doesn’t mean it will happen. Because dreams feel so real it’s easy to worry that if someone died in your dream, they’ll die in real life. Fortunately, just because you dream about something doesn’t mean it is going to happen.[11]
You may be trying to figure out what a death dream means, but psychologists don’t look for a single answer. Instead, they work with patients who are looking for their own interpretations of what the dream means to them.[12]
